Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Mornings and Marriage

Maybe it’s because I’m just not a morning person, but certain things scare me about the morning. For instance waking up in the mornings and being married. I don’t know enough about this and nor do I voyeur on couples morning habits, I guess the only evidence I have is from TV and movies.But the point I’m trying to make here I guess is that I really hate mornings and when I wake up because I hate being bothered and spoken to. I like my privacy. I like waking up and not having a million questions asked.

I’m a type of guy that won’t talk to anyone regarding anything for at least an hour after waking. This never really came up on dates, though. I guess its something not to brag about to a girl, such as telling someone, "Oh by the way I’m a cranky bitch in the morning, so if you’re not interested in another date I’ll understand."

I know I’m far from the only one who’s like this, but from TV, these couples wake up at the same time and start yapping the moment their eyes open. What amazes me is that these people hop out of bed in an instant.

Maybe this is just me, but I feel going to sleep alone is tons sadder than waking up alone. I love waking up alone with the quietness. If I’m off and my alarm clock isn’t waking me up, I'll probably rise at noon thinking it was 7 am. I guess in married life, if your spouse is an early waker upper, you’re pretty much screwed for life.

I remember speaking to some older married guy about this on a ski lift (great place to start schmoozing with random strangers you’ll never see again in your life) about this issue. He told me he and his wife have an understanding that he hates mornings as well and they don’t speak to each other until 10 a.m. or so. I think that’s brilliant. Although it may take time for it to work because they each wake up in the same room and use the same facilities and eat kind of near each other. But they can do it 5 or 10 min shifts.

It still gets me thinking every time I wake up and people start talking to me and asking me questions. One may wonder how this has anything to do with frumness, well it doesn’t, but NSF is without internet and is over thinking about life complications.

Editors note: Despite this post being posted at night, it was thought out and written in the morning.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

well nsf, personally, i think that the only way to solve this problem is to think ahead. "how?" nsf will ask. well, first, when you do get married, it is important that you get into a fight with your wife or husband (could'nt resist) the nght before so that he or she will e unwilling to talk to you in the morning. or, you could simply refuse to brush you teeth and meet your spouse with a breathy greeting. this will keep up a good but distant relationship. she will keep away from you as you get close. i havent brushed my teeth in who knows how long and man am i sad and alone. (just kidding. i brush my teeth a lot, i am alone because there is something wrong with me mentally, i think.)
also, nsf, did you consider that maybe when you do get married you ill be more willing to talk in the morning.

Lance said...

I think there's something magical about waking up next to someone. That being said things in relationships with people you care about tend to work themselves out. We weren't created to live alone and we generally find solace in others comfort no matter what time of day it is.

Becky said...

i disagree with lance. i'm married, and i hate mornings. and i hate talking in the morning. and my hubby knows it by now and is fine with it too.

Anonymous said...

not to state the obvious or anything but i am getting the sense that there is a more profound reason for not wanting to talk than morning breath-?-

flatbush gal said...

hmm i wouldnt want to have a long discussion in the morning but a few mutterings never bothered me much

Jacob Da Jew said...

Da wife and I are the same way: Leave me the #$%^ alone at least until 12pm.

~ Sarah ~ said...

my family know not to talk to me until the coffee has kicked in. they are a bit forgetful though yap at me before i'm ready to deal with anyone. glad to know there are others like that!

Anonymous said...

you people are f$&*ing crazy!

silent said...

Im Fine with talking in the morning once im up, its the waking up that i hate. And i love getting up to a smiling baby and one who is sincerely
happy to see her morning talkative Daddy.

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