tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post5032158043036052247..comments2023-11-03T07:24:08.061-05:00Comments on The rantings of a frum guy who speaks his mind: Remembering all the dates you went onNotsofrummiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14037364666948532450noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-1561042390032013682007-07-20T12:00:00.000-05:002007-07-20T12:00:00.000-05:00Well, shidduch dating-wise, I only went out with b...Well, shidduch dating-wise, I only went out with bout 6 girls before meeting my wife. <BR/><BR/>But back in da day, when we be chillin' , those I have a hard time remembering their names, heck even what they looked like...<BR/><BR/>Beer goggles, anyone?Jacob Da Jewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271564852032891769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-15091940254045890392007-07-18T19:59:00.000-05:002007-07-18T19:59:00.000-05:00I have a habit of renaming the girls I have gone o...I have a habit of renaming the girls I have gone out with nicknames this is fine but really makes it hard remembering there real names when the girl that is suggested is going for speech or physical therapy or school psych....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-24897959784984976732007-07-15T18:54:00.000-05:002007-07-15T18:54:00.000-05:00I don't keep a list but I have a good memory which...I don't keep a list but I have a good memory which kinda sucks now that I think about it. I wish I could forget half my dating history.<BR/><BR/>I don't think it's strange to have a list though.Rohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13029181785035304217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-52406687088966768022007-07-15T06:59:00.000-05:002007-07-15T06:59:00.000-05:00I remember all those who dumped me. Cannot remembe...I remember all those who dumped me. <BR/>Cannot remember those I dumped, I know they were few,.<BR/>Few guys in my list I will never ever be lucky enough to forget. <BR/><BR/>And as a women - I wouldn`t mind if my man remembers others or not. Its his own buisness. Innit?שלומית נעים נאורhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172874100603197578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-26074984459552702482007-07-14T21:44:00.000-05:002007-07-14T21:44:00.000-05:00i never even thawt about that i just assumed one w...i never even thawt about that i just assumed one would remember, i dunno i guess a list is necessary as weird as it seems.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-87673710958658317372007-07-13T16:38:00.000-05:002007-07-13T16:38:00.000-05:00The cliché about it being quality over quantity co...The cliché about it being quality over quantity comes to mind after reading your post. What really counts is that you haven't met the Ms. Right yet. I get sad when I think about how many really bad dates I've been on over the past few years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-75637689789377613552007-07-13T13:18:00.000-05:002007-07-13T13:18:00.000-05:00Sara has it right. the list can help you learn fro...Sara has it right. the list can help you learn from your experiences. Initially the point of the list was not to bolster my ego, but after seeing what it appears to be a semi-large number (its totally not if you think it about mathemetically) did give me the wow, but then im like after all that and still not married, the ego left. But those who were just bla, wasnt a horrible and wasnt an awesome and cant remember a damn thing that was spoken about on that date, i forgot fairly quickly.<BR/>Those who dont wanna remember the bad dates, i think those are the ones I remember more clearly. The ones that give me more stories to tell over to my friends.Notsofrummiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037364666948532450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-87392264316647628932007-07-13T10:18:00.000-05:002007-07-13T10:18:00.000-05:00to residency year sucks...hopefully if you really ...to residency year sucks...hopefully if you really love your (future) wife, you'll be attracted to her regardless of "how she looks" and more because of your shared history, the family you're raising together, and the future you will share. <BR/><BR/>to notsofrummie...thanks for your blog. it's comforting to see that guys are also having frustrations with the shidduch dating "system." you could always move to chicago if you want to remember all the girls you date...because here, you'll run into them on the street all the time! %-}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-78429407970907568892007-07-13T10:15:00.000-05:002007-07-13T10:15:00.000-05:00heypreviously i meant to say "herpes" not "herpers...hey<BR/>previously i meant to say "herpes" not "herpers." what the hell is herpers?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-25779443520372344592007-07-13T10:13:00.000-05:002007-07-13T10:13:00.000-05:00i actually remember each and every one of the girl...i actually remember each and every one of the girls i have gone out with because there happened to be something distinctive about all of them. Also, i have only gone out with 4 girls. i must say, only 2 of them lasted more than one date. they lasted two dates. and that was 2 dates too many. and if i have learned anything, it is this:<BR/>Herpers jokes are never ever funny.<BR/><BR/>NSF - its fine that you dont remember the girls you went out with. do you remember all of the other people you have met and hung out with for a few hours and then never saw again? this is the same thing. your cool. but it would be pretty funny if you went out with a girl like 5 times and kept saying no because you could never remember her because so unremarkable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-84124641244397475802007-07-13T06:57:00.000-05:002007-07-13T06:57:00.000-05:00Honestly if the guy was a jerk or had this distinc...Honestly if the guy was a jerk or had this distinctive thing that he did during our date(s), then I don't forget them. I have dated many guys but don't need a sheet myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-3156845719577540422007-07-12T21:30:00.000-05:002007-07-12T21:30:00.000-05:00just to clarify I meant any future wife. thanksjust to clarify I meant any future wife. thanksresidency year suckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09474928473674738341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-38896112935253255752007-07-12T21:17:00.000-05:002007-07-12T21:17:00.000-05:00NSF, forget how practical it is, I think that you ...NSF, forget how practical it is, I think that you have to much free time on your hand i.e. starting a spreadsheet at the office. As for me I just take in how different women look (and men, though to a lesser degree) 5-10 years later on in life and wonder to myself if I will still find my wife attractive in another 10 years. I sure hope I do... then again there is always the escapism of the moviesresidency year suckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09474928473674738341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-43383917342896715142007-07-12T19:21:00.000-05:002007-07-12T19:21:00.000-05:00like, jenn i choose to forget most of the bad date...like, jenn i choose to forget most of the bad dates i've been on. but i do keep a list, so that i can go back and check so i don't have a repeat. i told one of my friends i keep a list and she thought that was a bit odd but it's a practical thing really. cos you can remember from that list all the things you are not looking for and the things that you liked about people that you would want.Sarah Likes Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15055831838215589183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-66336746481825461282007-07-12T16:24:00.000-05:002007-07-12T16:24:00.000-05:00I havent dated many guys at all and i seriously do...I havent dated many guys at all and i seriously dont remember the names of prob 75% and i dont remember what like 60% look like or what we did...i have a great ability to block out unpleasant experiencesjennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07481842994280431713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4424064832168159758.post-88351917151879991822007-07-12T13:19:00.000-05:002007-07-12T13:19:00.000-05:001) Are you sure this isn't merely an exercise in b...1) Are you sure this isn't merely an exercise in boosting your ego?<BR/><BR/>2) Your (g-d willing) future wife is NOT going to want to hear about how many girls you dated, where you dated them or even what you did or didn't like about them. If you want shalom bias, just make her feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to you, and because of her the others are all wiped out of your memory.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com